I always say people get what they deserve. Always.
You live an unhealthy lifestyle, and you get sick and die. You surround yourself with kind people, and you will get treated well. You complain about your life being shit, and your life will become shit. Always make sure to do the right thing. Or better said, do the things that will by logic lead you to the results you expect.
Any anger is based on fear. So when you are angry with someone close to you, its based on the fear you feel related to the action that the other person took, that either influenced you or not.
Any anger is based on fear. So when you are angry with someone close to you, its based on the fear you feel related to the action that the other person took, that either influenced you or not. When you feel this anger, take two steps back and turn away from anger by becoming a spectator of the person and the situation.
Take an extreme situation. Someone cheat on you after 10 years relationship. Your first reaction is anger. Anger is based on fear such as, im going to be alone, all my memories i had was wasted, i wasted time with the wrong person, i have to go out dating again etc etc.
None of these are related to the action of the other person. Its all the fears that comes with it that makes you angry. You take two steps back and become a spectator. Almost like a movie, you look at the other person; The one that can’t be faithful, that take shortcuts in life, that is not able to resist temptations, that lie to someone that they had a long relationship. What does this say about the other person. And what kind of expectations do you think this person will have on their next relationship. Will they ever be able to trust someone else, when they know they are a cheater? You calmly ask those questions, just as you would watching a film.
And at one point it becomes clear that you won the lottery. You can move on and being free of your thoughts. You didn’t do anything wrong. You can find someone that you can trust and love. You can be happy again. The other person revealed their weak personality, and could only hope to have a decent life again. They are caught in a trap of bad actions and trust issues. And you would not wish even your worst enemy to go on a date with this person ever again.
While you will walk away happy, this other person is just a poor soul, and your anger is gone, because you are just an happy individual that got some help to decide what was the wrong choice in life, and you are already on your way to something better. Wish them all the best and smile, because people ALWAYS get what they deserve.